Love, romance and relationships are all very funny things; we all have different ideas about what they are and different expectations of how they should be.
- How do you identify love?
- How do you tell the difference between infatuation and true love?
- What does it mean to be romantic?
- How do you express love and romance?
- What makes a good or bad relationship?
- Are you both on the same page in this relationship?
- Is there ever a right time to say “I love you”?
- And if so, when is the right time?
“I Love You”
Three simple little words, “I love you”, can make or break a relationship; saying them may take a relationship to the next level; not saying them may lead to disappointment; not saying them may up end in taking each other for granted; saying them may make way for unexpected or unrealistic expectations. Saying or not saying these three little words, can put a relationship under a lot of pressure.
It’s All In The Timing
Just as every story has two sides, so does a relationship; maybe even three sides … his, hers and the truth. To ensure a lasting relationship, much patience and more than a little compromise is required. To add significant and positive meaning to a relationship, both parties need to be on the same page when these three little words are spoken for the first time.
A Quarter Century, Not Out!
My husband is not at all romantic, but I believe that we have a very good relationship … it has certainly stood the test of time, more than 25 years and still counting. If I were to push and nag for public shows of romantic affection, I may lose this wonderful relationship all together. His enduring companionship is far more important to me that holding hands in public or being showered with roses for no particular reason.
While he may not make these traditional grand gestures of romance, I know he is very sincere about our relationship. And ladies, sometimes rather than complaining about the lack of showy romance, maybe we just need to read between the lines.
He Loves Me? … He Loves Me Not? …
I know my husband loves, he does not say it in three simple little words, but all the same, I know he loves me. I know it to be true and this is how I know …
I am a shift worker and this means that on some evenings, I am driving home around midnight. A few years ago, we sold our house and for a short period of time, we rented another house while we looked for our next property to buy. During this temporary period, I would have to drive through a fairly dodgy of area of one particularly dodgy town. One day as I set off in the afternoon to start my afternoon shift, which would see me driving home at midnight, he asked me quite sincerely, “Do you lock your car doors when you drive home after these late shifts?”
And there it is! Of course he loves me!!! How could I have ever doubted it? I just had to read between the lines.
What might you discover if you learnt to read between the lines?